Is it Love or Obsession? How to Know if the Love is Real or Not
Thousands of single beautiful international women on one dating site, Dream Singles. Sounds like a good time to get to know someone. You can imagine how easy it is to be enamored with a female on Dream Singles. Butterflies and thinking about her just feel as natural as breathing. Do you know if these feelings are real? Do these feelings match up with hers? Your attraction to her is at an all-time high. The question is though. Is it Love or Obsession? How to know if the love is real or not.
Personal Space
When dating online such as a site like Dream Singles, there are a lot of ways to interact with women. Here is where things get interesting. One of the true signs that you do love her is if you give her personal space. If for instance, you are chatting with her on Dream Singles, and she doesn’t reply immediately back, what is your reaction? Someone who is obsessed would message over and over and over. Someone who is in love, would understand that she could be busy. This is just one example of how you can show love. Be the man here. Trust her. If she sees that you are willing to give her time to reach out to you, you build trust between the two of you. The key is to build trust. Trust is built over time. Her personal space is a part of her trusting you. If you do love her, you would be ok with being patient when she needs you to be.
She is Always "Right"
This here is one of the easiest things, to be honest with yourself. You might have done it before, or even now. How many times, have you just told her that she is right about things you don’t agree with? Your feelings on things are what makes you unique. You can be nice about not liking something she likes, but do not just agree with her when you don’t feel the same way. This is the difference between love and obsession. If you love her, you will be honest on how you feel about things. If you are obsessed with her, you will say yes and agree to every single thing she ever mentions. She may even tell you something she knows you don’t like just to see if you agree with her. It is a test. Stick to your beliefs. Here is a tip though. You can try things even if it isn’t something you know a lot about. Open your mind up to new ideas so she can feel that you would at least be willing to try things. If you want to show that you love her, stay loyal to what you believe in, but be open-minded to new things.
Moving WAY too Fast
One of the best disciplines, when you love someone, is being able to let her express her emotions to you. If you give the relationship time, she will tell you how she feels about you. If you are chatting on Dream Singles, there are love letters and emails she can write to you. In those letters, she could express herself in ways that are much more personal for her. She doesn’t have to respond immediately as she would to a real-time chat or video chat, she can take her time in what she wants to say. This is how you can control the pace of the relationship. Sending letters to each other, allows you to understand who she is. In those letters, or chat, or video chat, do not ask her to be committed to you right at the start. If you love her, you will get to know her. I know it sounds simple, but it is the most difficult thing to do at the beginning of the relationship. Why? Because in the beginning, butterflies, magic, stars, thoughts, the world spinning around you, all factor in when you are attracted to someone. As a man, it is hard to not want a commitment as soon as you see her profile and start chatting with her. So this is the biggest step in showing your love for her rather than being obsessed with her. Can you ask for commitment at the right time? Can you get to know someone on Dream Singles, and value the future with her rather than the immediate time right now?
Recap…
You can see the fine line between Love and Obsession. You have to stay true to these steps when you date online. Take your time getting to know her. Don’t commit too soon and let her build feelings for you. The more the feelings build up between the two of you, the better chances you have to be together. It takes time. It could take a couple of weeks, a month, maybe a couple of months. Be prepared to take the relationship where it needs to go and grow. Grow with the relationship and show that you love her when she falls for you.
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